This morning I saw the “TV 2 Go’ Morgen” show (Translate: TV 2 Good Morning”), which featured a story about a swedish blogger, who posted some innocent pictures of her self in a bikini on vacation in the Bahamas.
These pictures resulted in more than 1.400 comments… A lot of them saying that she is TOO FAT TO POST PICTURES! See the pictures here that sparked the heavy debate.
As some of you know I’m on a diet and hitting the gym trying to loose those extra “love-handles”…
Being 7kg “overweight” and having a blog my self, my question is: WHEN ARE YOU TOO FAT TO BLOG?! My answer… NEVER!
We all live in a twisted media world, that give women an image on how a beautiful woman should look like, what your size should be when wearing a bikini, how tall you should be, how skinny your legs needs to be in those jeans or what color hair you should have..!
For me blogs are a source of inspiration… No matter who’s behind it!
Who’s to decide who should blog and when your not “fit” for having a blog?
I blog because I have a passion for fashion.. A love for design… This blog is my way of expressing myself in a creative way and sharing my world! Should I stop blogging because I’m not model-thin? Because I’m not named “Top 100 Most beautiful Woman”?
The reasons for me trying to loose weight is not because I want to look like a model, but it’s really more about living a heathy lifestyle. Having a mother who’s been overweight her whole life, I’ve seen the negative things that follows…
I’m proud of who I am and I love being able to blog about the things I’m passionate about! I’m proud of the inspiration I give the people who follows my blog – Your comments and likes really means the world to me! #bootyliciousmother
I’m really anxious to hear what you guys think in the comments?
sure, she could probably tone up a bit, but who couldn’t? she looks happy and confident, so those insecure stin-stick bitches that are eaten up by their jealousy should stfu.
As long as your confident and “healhty” – Skinny or if you need to tone up a bit…
Some girls are naturally skinny (bitches) but still “healthy” without these “issues”:-)
The problem, I think, is that we’re all grow up in a world where some few dictate what beauty is and is not and that we all should follow that ideal look!! XOXO
Agreed, that girl actually looks gorgeous and has a beautiful body. She’s not “skinny”, but who cares? There is more than one type of beautiful.
That’s shocking! She might be technically overweight, but to me she doesn’t look it. She looks like a healthy and happy woman who is having a fab holiday. I say fair play to her, I wish I had the confidence to put bikini pics up of myself!
I totally agree… She’s a “normal” size 40, looks healthy and her confidence shines! Who’s to say what she can or can’t do, right?
Exactly, I think she looks healthy.
As a plus sized woman do I have no value? That is what we are saying if we continue to allow this level of harassment. A woman’s value is NOT based on her weight. We would never base a man’s worth on the size of his penis! I blog and I DONT CARE if someone thinks Im too fat to express myself through fashion. If you dont like it, dont read it. Its just that simple!. She looks great & is having a good time. Thats all we should be caring about.
You said it.. That IS ALL we should be caring about!!
xoxo
I agree! Great blog post! It’s really nice to see people being supportive of other human beings instead of trying to tear them down.
Thanks Glamourbones:) And I agree with you… Treat others like you yourself want to be treated ♥
If you want to share your love for fashion you should do it. It doesn’t matter if you are a size 4 or a size 14. Applaus to the Sweedish blogger- she looks good.
Yes.. She looks FAB! Thanks for your support ♥
xoxo
The conception of ‘beauty’ has been skewed so much by the media that people forget about ‘real’ women. She’s real, she’s beautiful and I think she’s rocking it!
I totally agree… I almost felt the need NOT to loose weight, just to prove my point!
But again, my reasons for loosing weight is different;)
xoxo
I think the Swedish blogger looks lovely. I bored of just seeing model thin women and think that it is shocking that this woman received so much negative feedback. I want to see real woman lumps, bumps and all.
#realwomenruntheworld ♥
well, never too fat to blog, but you should watch out.. we live in time when Victoria Beckham is an idol…
Haha… I know!
Am astonished… sad times these where we are too fat, too smart, too independent, too much of women for society to handle us. Sad…
Yes… it’s really sad! xoxo
Wow, thats absolute insanity! The girl looks great, and it’s an absolute shame that this kind of superficiality and delusion is in fact growing in our world today. It is very toxic behaviour perpetuated by the media, and socially amongst peers. It’s incredible the kind of self deprecation we are willing to submit ourselves too- it’s really quite sad.
Twisted doesn’t even begin to describe it. People need to realize the difference between media and reality. It’s sad that with reality television, it really has begun skewing those lines. All the young are susceptible to these attitudes.
The only thing we can do is counter it, I guess. Stay positive and keep on keeping on
Thanks for posting!
-The Eye x (http://theeyeoffaith.com)
Exactly! Thanks for your views ♥
She looks like a healthy young lady to me,I would rather see this instead of painfully thin skeletal models!
Skinny-look or healthy-look… As long as you’re happy with yourself and don’t let yourself be controlled by what society’s ideal woman should look like:)
She looks healthy and proportioned and she is not fat! I’m also sooooo tired of the media dictating what women should look like. We come in all shapes and sizes and I wish more women had the confidence to post photos like she did.
Most people also forget that celebrities are photoshopped so they look thinner..!
It’s about balance and health! You seem to be on the right track!
Thanks♥ I totally share the same views as you #realwomen
What worries me in those comments you spoke of is that people are too eager to press each and everyone of us into some standard mould so that we all look alike. And those who don´t fit in have no right to live their lives or enjoy themselves? Let´s take a break here. We are not part of some SciFi clone society but i n d i v i d u a l s …. with differences and the right to live and enjoy these differences. Isn´t it what makes us actually strong?
Totally! What a boring world it would be, if we all looked a-like…
i think that girl looks beautiful and healthy in those pictures and it’s so scary that people think she’s “too fat to blog”. i think that bloggers are a wonderful group of people who are all shapes and forms and races, and we as bloggers derive inspiration from one another and we all support each other. our group is unique because we don’t conform to any one specification. those peoples’ comments are disgusting!!
You’re so right… Thanks for the inspiration ♥
XOXO
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Sadly I have to say I am not surprised that this happened. It’s pathetic how society has this twist image of beauty that has ruined and is ruining the lives of so many beautiful people. The media has a tremendous influence on how people perceive things, and with the modern technology it’s so much easier for these ideas to seep into our mind and change what we think. I am no exception. I used to wear jeans even in 35C weather when I was in HK because I was considered “fat” and I didn’t want to be the laughing stock when I am out and about. But as I grow up, I have learnt how twisted people’s opinion of beauty is. No one needs to be stick-thin to be beautiful.
Beauty comes in all sizes and I think as long as one is healthy, and confident, that is what make them beautiful, not because they fit a certain stereotype of beauty. I really hope something will be done, somehow, to move this paradigm of beauty into a new one, where people understand being healthy and confident is what makes one beautiful. It’s so sad to hear girls who are already super skinny to say they think they are fat and need to go on a diet, when they are already probably underweight.
Anyhow this is a great post you wrote and society really is to be blamed for this, and I think that girl is beautiful because she is confident about how she looks like.
Thank you so much… And thank you for sharing your views and personal experiences ♥
I totally agree with you…
Be proud of who you are, be confident about your looks, have a healthy relationship with your body and have the courage to have your own style #freeyourmind
We need people like you willing to express sanity! I totally agree that no one is ‘too fat to blog’. That’s outrageous! It’s sad how twisted some people’s views are and it worries me because I know a lot of people with real self-esteem issues. I admire anyone who is confident of themselves whatever they look like and I personally don’t think that woman in the photos was at all ‘fat’.
Thanks for visiting my blog. ‘Like’s mean a lot to me too, especially as I’m only just starting to work out my own blogging style. I’m always impressed by the blogs I find from those who Like my own, including yours.
Thanks ♥
This is a picture of a beautiful woman, not a stick insect. I feel so incensed by those who dare to criticize her fabulous figure. The day of the androgynous model is nigh! What happened to celebrating a true womans body?
What a sad world we live in. Why is it women are so quick to slate and hate on other women for their less than ‘perfect’ bodies. Instead of thinking ‘wow, she’s not emaciated but she’s proud enough of her figure to put her bikini shots up for all to see’, we say ‘Ugh! How dare she put that non-size-zero body on display like that!’. The media has got us all so convinced that we’re not worth looking at unless we’re skinny, that we now can’t cope with anything that disputes that myth. What is strange is that, whilst all these people have given this poor girl a hard time, I bet if their best friend or girlfriend looked like that and body confidence issues, they’d tell her she was beautiful and that of course she should feel good in her bikini.
It seems that even though the media continues to ramp up the pressure on women to be thin, the average dress size in the UK is ever-increasing, which leaves us with a big gap between what we actually look like and what we feel like we ought to look like. I think all the insecurities that people suffer over their own bodies gets displaced onto anyone who puts themselves into the public eye, who doesn’t conform to what we’re supposed to be aspiring to. It’s easy to hate on a stranger, and it’s deemed fair game because they put themselves out there to be hated. Look at all those articles in the weekly gossip mags with sells like ‘Celebs embrace their curves’, they’re pretending to put a positive spin on being ‘curvy’ when actually they’re just printing yet another feature filled with unflattering pictures of people in their bikinis for us to gorp at and judge them for being ‘fat’.
It’s depressing. And what’s more, I reckon I’m a pretty rational person but I buy into it too! It’s complete indoctrination. I’m a size 10-12 and I think my body is pretty normal, but I couldn’t bear to see a bikini picture of me up on Facebook, and I’m sure as hell more likely to buy a beauty product advertised by some skinny model than say, Dove’s campaign that uses real women. I don’t know what the answer is… I guess all you can do is look back in time and see that the ideals held up by society are ever-changing, and no one is ever going to tick every box. And women have got to start being kinder to other women.. and to themselves! That would be a pretty good start!
P.S Sorry – I just went on a massive rant there! Just needed to get it off my chest I guess!
No need for “Sorry”!!! Thank you so much for commenting and for sharing your views ♥ xoxoyasmin
I am horrified at the reaction to this NORMAL girl’s photo….why can we as women not support and encourage each other, rather than being critical and judgmental? What does it say about those people who said she was “too fat to blog” To me, they are the losers and need our pity because clearly, they have issues! I think she looks like a normal girl having a great holiday and she looks tanned and healthy.
I have been through a very stressful time recently and have piled on extra weight which I am fully aware I need to lose, but definitely for health reasons and not because society says I have to be thinner.
The problem is that we are constantly comparing ourselves to celebrities who are stick thin without realising that they may be short too…and probably in proportion or maybe just naturally thin or, in some cases, very, very unhealthy. The problem about being very thin is that it sometimes disguises all sorts of hidden health issues…thin does not automatically mean healthy! The thinnest and fittest person I know has a very high cholesterol count…an hereditary problem in their family…so you just never know….I think we should all work on being more accepting of ourselves and each other, whatever shape or size we come in.
EXACTLY! If you’re happy with yourself and you’re comfortable with your size, color or whatever… You should never let other tear you down! Thanks for your views ♥
XOXOYAS
I completely agree with all the comments above! This woman is beautiful and clearly happy and confident in her body. Good for her! I feel that there is also another layer to these attacks. For all the good it provides, the internet also gives us a way to express ourselves without accountability. In this case, it turned into attacks by bored, mindless, and yes I dare say pathetic individuals with nothing better to do with their time than take out their own insecurities and life issues on an innocent blogger. There will always be those that need to try to diminish anothers self worth to feel better about themselves. If this blogger is as confident and happy as she appears, I’m sure she will never allow this to happen and will continue to blog about her passions and joyous life day after day!
I think you’re quit right… Also the blogger is one of Sweden’s most read bloggers, so I guess some people have the urge to diss “a known face”, when they have the chance! Thank you so much for commenting Monique ♥ XOXO
Indeed quite cruel and I totally understand your point of view! Ps: from where are you?
Thanks for commenting ♥
I’m half danish and half afghan living in Copenhagen;-)
Oh okay, I thought so I’m from Belgium so it sounded a little bit dutch/flemish ;D i was just curious ;p
she looks gorgeous and happy. Im rather shocked it caused controversy
Im sick of bad attitudes towards the female body.
I agree Louise.. She looks great and PERFECTLY healthy!
Thanks for commenting;) xoxoyas
Yasmin, thanks for finding and ‘liking’ my blog – so now I ‘see’ you for first time. Love your comments and range of topics. As to this one, most important – it saddens me that “we” still appear to be so narrow-minded, downright inaccurate and self-limiting. This same issue applies to race (g-d forbid that I might have a facial structure different from yours or a beautiful caramel-colored skin instead of pinky-beige…); be gender-confused; have an HGH (human growth hormone) deficiency can be really short… etc. etc.
We collectively seem to fear that which is different, that which is unknown. Far as I can see, I’m here on this little planet to learn and be exposed to exactly those things – otherwise why do we have a range of styles, looks, etc. This woman is just ok. Period.
I spend a lot of time in Africa and many cultures there have a very different ‘norm’ of both weight, size and beauty. Many men there look at European stick-figure women and in their rather direct way say something like, “she looks like she would break in half easily…”
While I agree that there is a range of weight that can be unhealthy, even that is highly variable – and shape often does not track weight. We all have our own internal “sweet spot” for we personally like in shape, form, size, color, etc. – I wholeheartedly support that – I won’t change what I “like” for anyone – but to be unaccepting of something outside that range is just narrowminded and stupid. We also tend to most unfortunately associate behaviour with appearance – for instance that “fat” people are lazy. The next time you piss off a very large African woman and she starts chasing you down the sidewalk you’ll get a really quick lesson on how fast even large women can move, and just how much energy they have!!
keep on cruisin’ – I’ll ‘see’ you in this ether-world..
Just terrible, this woman looks healthy, happy and why shouldn’t she wear a bikini The world is obsessed with the 5 per cent that have so-called perfect bodies. Thanks for make us aware of this disgrace, poor women, people should just grow up.
I’m horrified!!! She looks great!!! I don’t know what I was expecting to see when I hit the hyperlink, but it definitely was not a picture of a beautiful girl, with a nice body in a bikini at the beach. She looks great and I don’t understand why people continue to hold each other to these unrealistic ideals! I am a mother or 2 and have my own weight issues to deal with, but I think we should all be more supportive and encouraging with each other. We are not all supposed to look alike! That is why God made us different shapes, colors and sizes! How boring it would be to live in a world of stick thin women with the same hair color and eye color just because that is what society says is beautiful. You can NEVER be too fat to blog! Thanks for posting, and opening the dialogue for this topic, it is very near and dear to my heart.
My God, she looks totally and perfectly normal, i don’t understand what absurd perception of weight people have nowadays but the whole thing is getting to a sick point (yeah, straight to Angelina’s arms) and the worse of it is that all this bullshit is being inflicted on women by some other women (and some gay men).
Thanks God i decided a long time ago that the only opinion about my weight i was gonna listen to was that of straight men, yeah my Mr. and friends mostly, those who always have a nice complimentary thing to say to someone with curves like me, wide hips, big boobs and small waist, that’s me and i’ve lost count of how many times i’ve been told (without me asking for their opinion) by ‘fellow’ ladies that my 34G boobs are a little bit too much, that maybe i should loose a bit of but as you know perfection is having a straight line from your waist to your hips, maybe this, maybe that, blah, blah, blah and the thing is that i can’t care less what they say, this kind of women are never happy with their bodies (or with anything else, actually one should feel sorry for them) and the moment you show a little bit of self-confidence in front of them…oh girl you are lost! obviously according to their standards i’m probably as ‘fat’ as this girl, but then according to those standards so are the likes of Monica Bellucci, Christina Hendricks, Kate Winslet, Sophia Loren, Marilyn, Catherine Z Jones, Liz Taylor….the list could go on for ages, not to mention the majority of the supermodels of the 80′s and early 90′s. This stupidity has got to a point that i can perfectly picture a 18-year-old Cindy Crawford going to a model agency nowadays and being sent back home cause ‘girl where do you think you are going with that big fat arse of yours?’
And then my favorite part ‘too fat to blog’ wow! … what about ‘too stupid to blog’? I mean, seriously, any moron is allowed to throw his/her literary ‘jewels’ to the blogosphere not to mention his/her dubious ‘style’ and taste, but if you are more than a size 36 (let’s see, that is a UK8 and US6) you shouldn’t be allowed to blog and much less show your body?
A piece of advice, the next time anyone tells any of you that you should ‘tone’ your body, kindly and politely suggest to that same anyone to grab a book (anything that is not Teen Vogue or Twilight please) and to tone his/her brain as you are worried that it seems to bit quite out of shape lately. You’ll find that 8 out of 10 anyones will catch the message and never bother you again, the other 2 will keep annoying you with their idiocy as their tiny brain makes them cases beyond salvation, so you’ll have to be kind (or kindly fat) and tap them in the back while you tell them not to worry, that there’s also a place in this world for people like them.
Ha! love that ‘real humans’ (male or female) weigh in here… As one of those ‘straight men who don’t mind curves’ – and abhor snarky comments about others – as if the commentator was above reproach… it’s bad enough that I have to repeatedly remind my wife of 31 years that sexy had nothing to do with pencils, Photoshop or anorexic teenagers…
As a rather serious amateur photographer (streetphotography) I see and shoot all sorts of people. And it’s amazing the difference that culture makes. I spend a lot of time in Africa, and the ‘norm’ there is refreshingly different. So please, there are lots of men AND women out there that accept, love and are turned on by confidence, curves and constitution.
That’s really awful…the thing about the web is that it allows people to be faceless and therefore they can say what they wouldn’t normally. I think the pictures are fine, she’s a beautiful girl and I’m sure there are lots of men who wouldn’t want her to be skinnier anyway. I’m happy being skinny though, so who am I to say either way!
Yes it’s really awful, terrible, disgusting and a down right shame the way the media and white men make women feel bad about themselves if their not a certain sick looking size. I feel bad for their victims but as for me I am fat and happy and so is my man. My handsome black man just loves my curves!!!!
This was an amazing post! I am also struggling with this idea of how thin do I have to be to blog and seeing others concerned about it as well is comforting.
There is no such thing as too fat to blog! I’m astonished that people would say something like that!
I’m always impressed when any regular person has the confidence to post pictures of themselves in a bikini online – I could never do it…
So easy for us to tear each other down. So hard to find a kind word. I commend that woman for being comfortable in her own skin. What we think doesn’t matter. It drives me crazy that people feel like they need to share their opinion of you. As women we need to stick together, not tear each other apart. And we are all different. So sad for her.
Wow. I am shocked she got so much negative feedback. I think she looks great and is happy and loving life. I don’t think there’s anything negative to be said. Today I think we have distorted and twisted view of beautiful. It’s kind of shocking because acceptance is preached by the media, but they will criticize anyone who has a bit of jiggle to them. It’s ridiculous. In my opinion.
Thanks for stopping by the domestic fringe today!
~FringeGirl
I think a lot of people are jealous of her confidence…she looks beautiful and happy.
what?!?!?!? she’s gorgeous! i agree with sarah jordan…..
Great post! I can feel your passion on a topic (fashion and a real woman’s body) that as an overweight blogger I share. Continue the crusade, girl!
I totally agree with you! Blogging is for ordinary people to be able to share their views, ideas and passions so it’s ridiculous for people to try to dictate whether someone should put photographs of themselves on their blog or not. And aside from that, that girl was not fat at all, she looked gorgeous and confident!
The comments on that blog are disgusting. Her obvious self-confidence and self-security is radiant, and that’s far more attractive than almost anything out there. Thanks for sharing this post!
She looks confident and happy, and there is nothing wrong with the way she looks. It is sad that even when we can accept our body, others are quick to judge behind their internet shield.
She looks healthy, secure, and her smile glows… what more matters?
I just looked through a facebook album today on Jamaican Miss Universe auditions and similar nasty comments were directed to a beautiful NOT stick-thin girl (as if that’s a bad thing). It’s such a horrible universal mentality that a woman’s weight should conform to a certain ideal. It’s sickening really because you don’t see guys criticizing each other or another guy who doesn’t look like Ryan Gosling. Men play into this too, which makes me question: “who gives someone the right to make other feel bad to make yourself feel a tiny bit of self-esteem at someone else’s expense?”.That is a loaded question but honestly, all the power to any women who shrug it off and walk fabulously tall.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent”
Well put, Yasmin!
Why would anyone care how much this gorgeous woman weighs?! She looks happy, healthy and like she’s enjoying her holiday. Doesn’t she deserve all of those things without judgement?
I say, flaunt it if you’ve got it!
She looks stunning, her whole body is glowing and she looks happy. Society’s gone mad.
Good written! I’ve been thinking about this myself. Being what the fashion industry would call a plus size, but actually more a normal size, I’ve more than once felt that I can’t pull out the same nice outfit posts etc as a “skinny” girl. Looking around in the fashion and blog industry today there’s hard to find a girl that’s not a size 0-6.
And as soon as you do, people get shocked that this girl shows herself in the same type of outfits as a size 0-6 blogger. Yes, some clothes might fit better on smaller girls but honestly, why is that?
The only reason we think so it’s because that’s the ONLY vision we have of how clothes are supposed to fit and what type of girl that should be wearing them. And to be honest, I think the blogindustry of today has made this even worse.
Earlier, you only saw these outfits on actual models, and in a way you knew that they were models and not a “normal” person, we knew that it wasn’t realistic for everyone to look like that. But today, 99% of the bloggers looks like models and only posts pictures of people looking like models, and this is what a lot of young women have as their references. Because bloggers are actually “normal” people, a feasible human being living the same type of life as yourself (or maybe not…). This makes it more realistic as well, to think that everyone that’s good looking, successfull or want to do anything with fashion, has to be skinny and look like everyone else in the same industry…
The nice thing about blogging is that you can show your own kind of beautiful. I just received a letter from someone who said that its not the place to outline the exactly correct way of speaking but sit is more about how to get your own personal worth out for other people to see and appreciate. A little fatter than most might be what people relate to at this moment.
I think my opinion is shared amongst your comments already… but I had to add…
I have only just started blogging and would love to start adding a fashion component to my blog where I can feel confident to take fashion photos of myself. But this is what you’re up against! Really negative and harming people out there… you have to have the courage to put yourself out there (and I’m not sure I have that… yet).
I admire the women’s whose blogs I follow and they range from tiny sizes to well rounded self proclaimed “FATionista’s” and I think each and every one of them are inspiring and beautiful in their take on fashion (for them) and the fashion World. I have nothing but respect for them putting themselves out there to share their lives and I hope one day I can step up and be one of them.
Thanks for sharing this and your thoughts on it… it’s definitely an interesting subject!
From a coach point of view, super skinny can be as bad if not worse. Having a little layer and being strong isnt such a huge an issue( I am saying little layer here, and women need to have a little more than men to be healthy) . It is about health and wellness.
Besides many skinnies have no muscle mass and end up with all sorts of posture issues to mention only one.
The question of health and fitness doesnt lay solely in the mirror and more certainly not the one a certain fashion world is holding ( thank god not all are holding it)
It is also down to each individual to question the world around them, we cant always blame the other party – we always have a choice to challenge and think critically.
Women come in all sizes and shapes, and that’s good like that. Unfortunately the fashion industry always uses models who are very thin and not the average. I have been modeling, am naturally slim but I always took my distance from the hype and craze. I also don’t believe a woman has to be skinny in order to be beautiful. A lot of designs don’t look the same on a womanly figure as on a model. So I think fashion bloggers who don’t have a model figure are completely right writing about fashion. Like this girl, who in my eyes is not too fat, she corresponds with most of women way more than a model. So women like hers are in fact doing somethimg that the industrie fails to do: adressing the average women. Besides those commentors who thought she was too fat should look into Vogue rather than on her blog if they are looking for skinny models….
Funny you should mention Vogue/sksinny models… not wanting to go too far off topic here, but not only do only ‘certain’ body types appear to be ‘acceptable’ to some (and many fashion mags), but what about underage girls used as models? See French Vogue / Thylane Loubry Blondeau. Seems we collectively are losing our maturity, focus and common sense. Don’t get me wrong – I am very accepting of body types, whether Twiggy or Bottecelli – and am very aware (young Argentinian niece – beautiful and mature way beyond her years) that girls have a widely varying level of maturity and capability. However, I think that international magazines do have a higher bar in terms of the effects that are subliminally communicated – both to young female readers, and those that would take advantage of them.
@Everyone: Thank you all for commenting so much on this post… I really LOVE and enjoy reading all of your point of views and standings on this subject ♥
KEEP THEM COMING!!
XOXO Yasmincruz
Hi Yasmin, I’m only reading this post now, but I totally agree with you! I think the girl in question is a beautiful girl and no one is too fat to blog, and if they are overweight that’s their business, and not for other people (1400 omg) to judge. I’m also trying to lose weight for health reasons but I would never want to be model-skinny. I think that’s a very wrong and perverse picture to impose on people, and it’s a shame actually that so many people are so easily impressible by such beliefs and opinions. People are beautiful, all in their own way and I think a couple of kilo’s don’t change much about that. In this judgmental world however, I do think it’s very courageous of people who find themselves “overweight” (or not fitting the current idea of what’s desired) to post pictures. I think there’s actually one or two girls on lookbook.nu who are undeniably obese but I actually feel great respect towards them that they do not feel threatened or hold back by this superficial world. Just my two cents
Great post! I think she looks fabulous and she seems happy. She’s confident in her own skin, which many woman lack of. I wish I had her confidence. The problem nowadays is that society is very judgmental when it comes to thinks like these. All that matters is that she’s happy, gorgeous and confident.
I totally agree with you. “No one is too fat to blog” I just checked out her photos and she looks great and happy.
Thanks for sharing this.
Wow, whoever said that she is too fat to blog is BOGUS!!! Anyone has the right to blog and be heard. If she is confident enough to show her body to the world, everyone should embrace it and take the beauty from it!! (she looked gorgeous btw.) Yes, it is important to be healthy, I struggle with it everyday myself, but no one should be made to feel bad about how you look publicly. That’s why I feel bad for celebs and anyone else in the media because everyone is always up in your business!!!
I think that girl looks fantastic in her bahama pictures! She looks happy and confident! Unfortunately, the internet seems to give literary license to trolls who like to trample over others to make themselves feel better.
I agree it is good to be healthy. If you are happy, healthy and your husband loves you, what on earth do you have to worry about? I have no care for what women think about me, love your shape and you’ll feel happy & sexy.
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This hit it for me. One of my followers Yasmin Cruz wrote a absolutely WONDERFUL article and insight of what she thinks, Society paints this picture that only “Stick skinny” is beautiful , when in reality, everyone is… What in the world is ” Too fat to blog”? This is a must read , and Yasmin, I applaud you!
You’re never to fat, or to ugly to blog. What do they think? You can be so skinny, or so pretty… If you are a stupid person who isn’t nice at al what do you have than? And for a blog you need to have a nose for fashion, beauty or whatever you want to blog about. And I prefer a few kilos more than a person who looks dead…
OMG i’m really jealous of her for two things. First she is at the Bahamas, wich I would love to go there when I get the chance. And second she looks sooooooo wonderful. Her skin is so flawless. And there is no striae to find. And i agree with all of you that it doesn’t matter what size you are, if you are just feeling happy with yourself and wear what you want, where you want and wherever you want.
So to all who tries to bring other people down, take a good look at yourself. Because it is not the outside that matters, but the inside. And if you like to bring people down, your just nothing more than an ugly person who is not confident about herself and reflects that on an other.
btw, sorry for my English. I hope you know what i mean. I’m Dutch and my English is not as good as i want it to be.
I never thought that I would be the girl to be ashamed of her body, yet I had a child 4 years ago and haven’t really kept off the weight, although I am smaller than her I find that she is beautiful and that is the kind of confidence I wish for! That woman looks great, and I am going to take a lesson from her book and embrace my curves more!
Thank you for sharing! This really is what I needed to read in a time when bathing suits are frequenting the clothing racks and store windows.
xoxohm*
Latoya
http://www.bflysouljah.com
Wow – I recently bought my very first bikini (I figured I’m not getting any younger) and wore it in public very briefly. I’m incredibly self-conscious about it, but I thought about getting over myself and posting pics to my blog anyway. I think the sh*tstorm that this beautiful woman got will make me reconsider putting myself out there on the internet in that way. People can be great, but people can be really anonymously cruel.
Or maybe I’ll learn to use photoshop and then put some pictures up!
Hi
Thank you for LIKING my blog and hence connecting me to yours. I loved reading your “Too fat to blog” post – I had no idea there were so many people being negative about the kinds of pictures people upload. Unbelieveable! Blogging is such a personal contribution to what is out there – I am so glad to see that there are people in the blogesphere letting them know it’s not OK.
As we say in Australia, especially if you have a mullet, GOOD ON YA!
Thanks so much for posting this. What really bothers me is that if she were a man and posted these photos, no one would be commenting about how she looked in the first place! Society — both men and women — puts too much emphasis and value on how women look, and I don’t even need to mention the unattainable standards that it lays out for women to aspire to, because I think we here know that they are abnormal. I’m tired of seeing sitcoms on TV with a moderate looking man (but he’s funny!) who has a skinny, beautiful wife. Why is it okay to show a normal-looking or average man on television but not a woman of the same standards? And I’m tired of seeing women (and men too!) Photoshopped within an inch of their life on magazine covers. We need to celebrate how we look and appreciate our differences — our “imperfections” — and not criticize others for not fitting into some kind of a “mold” that society has defined.
I didn’t even think about her weight when i saw the pics – I was thinking how pretty she is and what a beautiful beach! The attack on women and their appearances is getting out of control. Here is an interesting article from Ashley Judd – http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/04/09/ashley-judd-slaps-media-in-the-face-for-speculation-over-her-puffy-appearance.html
Hi, thank you for taking the time to ‘like’ my blog post
I have for a long time been appalled at the declining state of our society, and terrified at how the changing attitudes towards real beauty are negatively affecting young girls growing up today. It is utterly disgusting that anyone over a size 6 is called ‘fat’ – and it’s driving already skinny girls to have terrible self images leading to eating disorders, self deprecating lifestyle choices and depression. What kind of world is it when girls who haven’t even reached puberty yet are already dieting and calling themselves ‘fat’?
Having grown up with these same desperate struggles and even to this day, as an adult, trying to constantly keep my own self image in check, I weep for the future of society: when a girl like this who only perhaps ten years ago would have been a model ideal of beauty, is now called, not too fat to be a model but ‘too fat to blog’. Since when was there physical prerequisites for sitting in front of a computer typing and having an opinion? We better shut down the internet entirely then because I’m betting everyone who posts updates on Facebook and tweets on Twitter don’t fit into a size 2.
Those of us in the real world say Wow, Keep blogging with pictures
For me, being the “perfect weight” is about being able to physically do whatever you wish to do without being limited by your fitness level. For some people, that requires being in better shape than others. This woman in the pictures is having a fantastic time on her vacation, swimming, doing whatever she likes while wearing whatever she likes. She does not look like a woman who is being limited by her weight at all.
I think she looks great! Shes not supermodel skinny but shes not grossly overweight either – She looks happy and confident
Very well articulated;))
Wow, I just looked at the photos, sadly, people can be so cruel.
I wouldn’t say she is fat and I am sure some would say she is normal but I am on a healthy diet for much much smaller love-handles!!!!
XOXO
Nina
http://trendsurvivor.com/
http://trendsurvivor.blogspot.com/
I just came across this older post you wrote and am absolutely horrified by it (not you but the response). I only wish I looked as great as she does, it is just a matter of perspective! There is the ‘hollywood’ world we live in which is not realistic and that is the end of it. As for the rest of us… it is not about what we look like rather just being healthy and a healthy weight.
She’s a beautiful & healthy, real size woman. Just because she’s not boney doesn’t make her too fat to blog bikini photos! People need to get over themselves, body perfrction doesn’t exsist. Bottom line, everybody has flaws!
wow. its really too bad some people don’t know how to filter themselves. its funny because she obviously knew what she was doing…look how many of us are talking about her! right on girl! ow!
Great post and thanks for the like on my blog too!
I am also a little overweight for my height I am 65 kilos and 5″1, I was just 46 kilos but then my asthma got worse and I have to take steroids. I ate unhealthy too when I started working two years ago. But, who give those people a right to judge her. She looks happy and confident. I think real beauty comes out when you feel it inside. You don’t have too look like a super model and besides who are they kidding? Not everyone look like a barbie doll? Let’s blog and feel good.
<3 Sammy
I wish I had her body and her confidence to feel comfortable wearing a bikini-those people that harrassed her should be ashamed of themselves.
When I first read it, I thought, oh my god, how fat is this girl?? When I clicked on the link and saw her, I could not believe it. I expected a 150kg girl laying on the beach. I think she looks good. She is a beautiful girl with beautiful breasts and a little bit of chub around her middle. Most normal people do! Maybe she could stand to lose a bit of her belly fat, just because it’s not good for heart health, but not because she’s too fat or anything.
Thanks for the link to the Swedish blog, and thanks for liking my post! I think you put it so well. It’s easy to feel “judged” by faceless people behind their computer screens! If there are things we need to change about ourselves and can, then we should. But we should never base our happiness or self-worth on whether we achieve these changes. Be happy and fat, or happy and slim, just be happy
She’s gorgeous! Whoever thinks she’s too fat is crazy.
I went to this Korean spa one time where the sexes were separated because there were nude rooms where all of the women were nude. At first, I was a little shy, until I realized that no one had a “perfect” body. We all were unique and beautiful in our own ways. Some women had big butts and small breasts. Others had small butts and large breasts. Some had flat stomachs and large thighs, or thin thighs and round bellies. It didn’t matter. We were all “imperfect” in the media’s airbrushed surreality, but gorgeous in what is true reality.
Why waste precious time worrying about what anyone thinks about what you look like? Your point of view and how you view your own gorgeous body is what matters. Life’s too short.
Great blog post! Always a controversial subject. I will be sure to share. Oh, and thank you for the follow!
Great article, and saw how many aren’t agree with the comments on the photos (normal photos) of the pritty girl in my eyes, nobody is perfect but who cares, the only thing that’s counts is feeling good with yourself inside and after that is coming the rest !!! unfortunately we become worser because of the society around us but don’t follow the unknown people ( I call them ) and believe in yourself and you can do everything……………………………. !
Thank you for the beautiful blog. I am repulsed that people would attack her about her photos. I see my blog as my little place on the web. Its where people come to see what is important and interesting to me or to see what I am up to. When someone visits my blog online, I liken it to someone coming over to visit me in my own house. If someone were to disrespect me in that way in my home they wouldn’t be allowed back. I welcome anyone and everyone to both places but will not tolerate disrespect.
I could list pros and cons of her pictures, why she should our shouldn’t have listed them but the bottom line is it’s her blog. She can list what she wants. She wasn’t asking for feedback about her pictures yet graciously sharing s part of her vacation with everyone. I hope she had a great time!
Cheers,
Andrea
Being fat, being skinny aside- she is beautiful. She has such a bright and happy smile and appearance, this is what makes her really really beautiful, far more than others, who may have negatively commented on her pictures.
wow- she is beautiful! I’m so sad that people were saying such awful things! I would never call her “fat.” She looks happy and confident and that is what makes someone sexy! Not being a beanpole…
This is unbelievable, what the hell does it matter how you look? I will never understand people who feel the need to post unnecessarily negative comments!
Totally ! Blogs are my inspiration !! Totally love this article !! Xx
She looks very good to me, but then I have always preferred women who aren’t obsessed with the idea of having a body that most resembles that of a 12 year old boy. While it’s great to be in shape, there are life events such as pregnancy that, for some, will make it impossible to return to flat stomachs and other notions of physical perfection. I for one am tired of the message our culture sends to women of all ages: you only matter for your physical appearance.
I definitely agree with you. There is nothing wrong with her or those pictures. The internet is a (mostly) free place and she didn’t harm anyone. In fact, she looks beautiful to me. Just cause a person’s not a size 0 doesn’t mean they’re not beautiful!
Uhhh if she’s too fat to blog I should probably stop being a fashion blogger.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder (self and others)!
adorable:)
Ridiculous – she looks radiant, happy, and confident with who she is, or as I posted on my blog “Bien dans sa peau”!
It’s not only women that are subjected to this kind of scrutiny. Men go through much the same as women do nowadays. There is just as much perceived pressure on us males to keep a fit, taut and trim body, be it to attract a potential mate, fit into the latest trends, or be accepted into the “coolest” crowds.
Caro, I disagree about a man being accepted more. If I had tens of thousands of followers, as she does, and posted a picture of myself in swimmers, I’m sure I too would receive plenty of less than flattering comments (and probably justified, too!).
I would hazard a guess that the woman in question doesn’t suffer terribly from a lack of self esteem. She’s pretty, looks great in a bikini, and with a following of over 20000 people, more than likely feels pretty good about herself.
There will ALWAYS be those who will criticise those of us not fortunate enough to have the gorgeous gene naturally installed at the time of manufacture. It’s quite simplistic, but at the end of the day, we have to love ourselves and try to drown out the negative comments. I have self esteem issues just as much as the next Quasimodo, but I have taught myself that this is what I have to work with for the rest of my life. I’m not getting any younger, prettier, or thinner (Though I constantly work at thinner), but damn it, I’m going to make the most of what I do have.
It’s simple to jump up and down and shout how unjust the world is, and how judgemental it can be, but if we take a step back for a moment, let’s realise exactly what this all is. Words. Just words.
While she may have not desired the original negativity on such an innocent post, I have a sneaking suspicion that she might be pretty pleased with the storm this has created on her blog.
I’d love 1400 comments on any of my posts at http://www.shoesmaketheman.com.au
Did you like the way I slipped that in?
Go on, someone jump on there and criticise my knees or something.
Maybe if I ever get to 1000 followers I’ll post a photo of me in swimmers and see what happens…..
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I had someone say to me that she hated fat people. Granted she said this as she lost about 12 kgs because of class 1 obesity and said that she didn’t like the fact that designers made clothes for plus sizes because it encouraged them to stay fat.
She obviously thought she was model-gorgeous.
Not by a long run.
Unless you are traumatized by a few extra kg, your weight has nothing to do with what’s in your head. I detest comments like that of Karl Lagerfeld about Adele.
And I daresay that I would try that bikini stunt and see if the 1000 followers would follow me….